October 14, 2016

Yes, that’s today.

There’s nothing monumentally special about today, but it’s a good a day as any to be appreciative.

As I heard on someone’s voicemail yesterday, “Not all days are good days, but there is good in every day.”

That’s definitely true today.

Today, and everyday for the past 18 days, I’ve gotten a reliable slice of good in my days. It comes in the form of letters from my girlfriend. She started writing them a while back so that I would have something to look forward to when we were not together (she lives 5 hours away). They serve as a reminder to me that I am loved;  to remind me how beautiful/special she is (that’s my takeaway); and to count down the days until I move to be with her.

Today’s letter was my favorite, and to me, displays why she has the most beautiful soul of anyone I’ve ever met. It’s truly awesome to get to see the world through her eyes, and be a part of something so beautiful. Soooo, I thought I’d share it with you (without her permission), to share some of her with you, in hopes that it/she might provide a ripple effect of good in your life as well. Continue reading “October 14, 2016”

Love Beyond My Love

The Ten Things I Want to Tell the 23 year-old on Tinder (& Anyone else who Wants Love) via the Elephant Journal website. By my awesome friend Lisa Beeler!

• These are great tips for dating, or just finding love and loving yourself in general. Lisa is a friend I can always count on for solid advice, and to help keep things in a fun, positive light.

11 First Date Tips That Are Actually Useful [From Her] via the Mantelligence website. By Courtney Gilliam.

• Just some simple, solid advice in case you’re a bit clueless, or need a refresher to get back on your game.

Can We Fuck the Person We Love? via the Elephant Journal website. By Kate Rose.

Obviously, I’m not worried about my family viewing this site. Haha. But, I’m really glad I came across this article and that someone had the courage to talk about it. It’s something that I’ve struggled with a lot just because I used to associate f*cking with random hookups, and I didn’t want people I loved to feel random or disrespected. At the same time, I always felt that a deeper love would allow the space for making love, sex, and f*cking so long as the two people involved were comfortable enough in themselves and each other to do so.

How to Unhook from an Emotionally Unavailable Partner by Kara Leah via the Elephant Journal website.

• Not sure there’s much ‘how to’ in this article, but it is highly relatable. As such, I think each reader can recognize and draw their own how to’s from it as they reflect on their personal relationships.

The Secret Language of Hugs by Zoë Kors via the Elephant Journal website.

• I just love hugs. Two arms, not that one arm shit. Probably the thing I miss the most about my dad are his hugs. He would squeeze us so tightly for what seemed like the longest time. Not because he was trying to embarrass us  but because he loved us so much. It was kinda awkward as a child because I didn’t know how to receive a hug and be a badass at the same time, but I’d take one of those hugs over just about anything now.

Dating a Man, Not a Boy: What Grown-Up Love Looks Like by Alex Myles via the Elephant Journal website.

• I can tell you there is a monumental difference in the boy I was in relationships and the man I am in them now. But even as a ‘man’ I have only just begun to practice the grown-up love that author Alex Myles refers to in this article. It’s a hard thing to do – to love. Thankfully, I am not alone in that struggle. Although I am happy with how far I have come and with who I am now, I look forward to having this grown-up love one day.

When I Say I Love You, This is What I Mean by Ben Neal via the Elephant Journal website.

• I don’t now, but I hope to feel and fail (miserably) to say all these things one day. When I do, this is what I’ll mean.