Life Beyond My Life

  • This says so much about life, and about my life up until this point. For the longest times I always needed to have things to fit into all these boxes. Boxes that I had made up and deemed necessary in order to control my life and, in my mind, make the most of it. There was no vulnerability or room to allow things to fall into place. I was afraid to hand over the reins, and allow life to just do it’s thing. For every effort I made to control it, though, the further I drove myself from that which I wanted – happiness. This is something I wish I could have heard before, and something that I wish a lot of people I know now could hear. I’m not talking about the ability to use one of your senses though. I mean to be able to absorb, digest, and become this understanding. To go about life letting go of your own egotistical intolerance that things need to be this way or that. To let go of the fear of not being in control or not knowing what’s going to happen, and to simply allow the space for things to be. Because regardless of whether you do or not, things are always just gonna be what they’re gonna be. Expecting otherwise will only garner disappointment.

A Reminder for Those Who have Forgotten how Amazing they Are by Renee Baum via the Elephant Journal website.

  • This may be one of the most important things you ever read. I tried once unsuccessfully to write something similar, but she nailed all of it in the most beautiful way possible.  A daily reminder that no matter what you are going through in life you are not alone, and that you are amazing and capable of amazing things.

The Love of My Life by Cheryl Strayed (author of Wild) via The Sun Magazine website.

  • This article was sort of the precursor for her book and the movie Wild. I think it’s better than the movie, and the friend who showed it to me think’s it’s better than both (I have not read the book). You may think with a title like this it should be in the Love category, but this story — her story — is about grief. This is a beautifully vulernable, honest, and detailed account about how grief and grieving isn’t as simple as 5 steps, and how often times those steps come in a lottery pick of orders. I relate to this, not because I grieved in the same way she did, but because we all grieve differently. There is no right way to grieve, and every loss is different. Often times we don’t understand how our grief has transformed us, and we generally don’t come out of it until we fall flat on our face. There isn’t a self help book in the world that can help you avoid it, but just know you are capable of surviving it and even thriving once it’s done.

A Remedy for the Regular Unhappiness of Being Human by Sarah Norrad via the Elephant Journal website.

  • I’m not sure this title paints the perfect picture for this article, but it is a good read about how it’s up to you to choose to be present and make the most out of any situation you may currently be in. We all often wish we were somewhere else doing something, anything, other than what we are currently doing. Most times though that’s not a viable option, and thinking about it all the time doesn’t do us much good. So instead of doing that, choose to be in that moment in that place and make it whatever you wish it to be.

I will Never Apologize for being Vulnerable by Janne Robinson via the Elephant Journal website.

  • Never, ever apologize. This article gives me almost a deja vu feeling like the words I’m reading are coming straight out of my mind, my heart, and my soul. Must read.

To Anyone Who Thinks They’re Falling Behind In Life by Jamie Varon via the Huffington Post website

  • A must read. A FUCK YES. An everything in one. If you are here reading this you should read this.

The 3 Kinds of Grief Nobody Talks About by Kenneth J. Doka, Ph.D.

  • He says it best…”Remember: Grief is not always about death, but it is always about attachment and separation. Often, people endure pervasive and intense distress without having faced the death of a loved one at all. Further, in these cases of unrecognized losses, our grief is often not recognized by others, either. But you can grieve the loss of anything, anywhere or anyone to whom you had become attached—no list could name all the possibilities. To deal with the sorrow, you may need to find confidants, counselors and support groups that can assist you. Above all, you need to have your grief acknowledged. Allowing yourself to understand the validity of your emotions is the only way to begin feeling better. You are not the only one to have mourned in these situations—and you are not alone.”

Stop Trying to Figure Out Life by Darius Foroux

  • Reading articles like this I go, “Hey, I said that! Well, you said it better, but I totally have said the same things!”.