To Searsha

To Searsha,

I hope you relish the fight.


I suppose before I go any further I should explain who Searsha is and why I’m writing to her.

Searsha is our unborn daughter. She is due to arrive July 31, 2017. 

I’m am writing to her, because; well, it just seemed like a good idea.

This may also explain to some of you why I haven’t posted anything lately because in the last 6 months I’ve moved, got a new job (which is similar to my old job), started my own race company (, found out we’re having a baby girl, and went under contract for a house.

So, yeah, I’ve been a bit busy. 

But anywho… Continue reading “To Searsha”


Chapter 6 – Blind Allegiance

Chapter 6 – Blind Allegiance

That 20 year life span between the two (real) me’s was not without it’s significant moments, substance, or things that I will hold onto for the rest of my life, but it was empty in many ways. It was like the universe, big and beautiful and full of life, but also dark and strangely void.

It was like my own black hole. Whereby, I was trapped by myself, without conception of myself.

Before moving on though and explaining what it was like escaping this black hole, I want to first go over one more thing which brought me into this existence – my personal relationships. Continue reading “Chapter 6 – Blind Allegiance”

A Beginner’s Love


Let’s Start at the Beginning

Want to know how can you be a good partner and find success in love?

Here’s a hint: it might be simpler than you think.

The truth is, there’s really no secret formula to being a good partner or being good in a relationship. All are capable of being such, and all probably have been at one time or another. It’s just the consistency that’s hard.

But, if you want to be better partner, or to be better in a relationship, take my advice: go back to the beginning.

Continue reading “A Beginner’s Love”

October 14, 2016

Yes, that’s today.

There’s nothing monumentally special about today, but it’s a good a day as any to be appreciative.

As I heard on someone’s voicemail yesterday, “Not all days are good days, but there is good in every day.”

That’s definitely true today.

Today, and everyday, for the past 18 days, I’ve gotten a reliable slice of good in my days. It comes in the form of letters from my girlfriend. She started writing them a while back so that I would have something to look forward to when we were not together. She lives 5 hours away.

The letters serve as a reminder to me that I am loved, to remind me how beautiful/special she is (that’s my takeaway), and to count down the days until I move to be with her.

Today’s letter was my favorite, and to me, displays why she has the most beautiful soul of anyone I’ve ever met. It’s truly awesome to get to see the world through her eyes, and be a part of something so beautiful. Soooo, I thought I’d share it with you (without her permission). To share some of her with you, in hopes that it/she might provide a ripple effect of good in your life as well. Continue reading “October 14, 2016”

Chapter 5 – AutoCorrect Off

Spoiler alert. I’ll go ahead and start this chapter by breaking the news to you all that I did not become Chuck Norris. Le Sigh. Maybe the worst or best parenting decision my parents ever made stopped that from ever becoming a reality early on.

Basically, due to my rambunctious and somewhat violent behavior in elementary school, I was put in in-school counseling around the first or second grade. Something along the lines of anger management for little people. Continue reading “Chapter 5 – AutoCorrect Off”

Thank You for Saying YES

Thank You

Thanks you for saying yes.

Maybe none of you said it in capital letters, but I thank you all the same. None of you had to say yes, but you did, and I’m really thankful for that.

I don’t take a single bit of it for granted, and that’s why I wanted to take some time to express my gratitude to all the women in my life who have previously said yes to me; in particular, to those of you who I’ve been honored to call my girlfriends or my wife.

I’ve not only wanted to say those things to you for a long time, but I wanted to write my own thank you letter to all of you because I’ve seen too many other letters out there that just don’t add up to my thoughts on love or any of you. You’ve probably seen them all too, you know, the articles out there that thank people for saying NO, or that thank people for breaking up with them, or that thank people for letting them go. They’re all so depressing and negative in tone I feel, and it seems as if they only serve to boost the self-esteem of the person writing them so that they might feel better off afterwards.

And that’s why I’m writing my own letter to you, because I wanted my letter to you to be different. I wanted my letter to be positive, because I don’t feel like I’m better off without any of you, I feel like I’m better off having had each of you in my life.

So again, I thank you. Continue reading “Thank You for Saying YES”